Senior Fraud: “Incorrigible Leech” Almost Struck Again in Victoria

I just discovered that this man has been preying on new clients of Act Together Moving Services. He developed a “friendship” and gained their trust by helping them with odd jobs and hauling. Luckily his history of defrauding seniors was discovered and contact has been cut off before he was able to do them too much harm.

This man is still living and possibly defrauding other seniors in Victoria. Please read this Times Colonist article so you recognize him when you see him! And please share with any seniors you know.

aroundtown-pro-am-jpgA B.C. Supreme Court justice called a Victoria man “an incorrigible leech” and ordered him to vacate a wealthy elderly widow’s property this week and repay her $140,000 for lost investments, unpaid rent, personal loans and a car.

 

Address Change Checklist

Even in this virtual world, we still have to update our address when we move. This printable list of possible address changes will keep you organized as you complete your move preparation.

Step 1: Buy Mail Forwarding by Canada Post product_mail_forwarding_img_lg

Purchase Mail Forwarding at least a month before moving. You can buy  4 months of forwarding for $67.55. Mail Forwarding ensures tax receipts, government forms, bank statements and bills don’t go astray right after you move.
You can even buy it for another person (including a deceased person)
. You can buy it in a post office or online. Find out more on Canada Post website.

Step 2: Use a Checklist

Keep track of the businesses and people you need to contact to update your address.

Open the Printable Address Change Checklist


Address Change Checklist

  • Family members
  • Bank(s) and other financial institutions
  • Credit card companies
  • CRA
  • Driver’s license/Health Services card
  • Pension providers: Government, military, private
  • Friends
  • Doctor(s)
  • Dentist(s)
  • Pharmacy and pharmacist
  • Optometrist
  • Lawyer(s)
  • Hospital
  • Alarm system company
  • Computer service
  • Magazines/newspapers (by mail)
  • Charities (because of tax receipts)
  • Funeral home (if pre-planned)
  • BCAA
  • Clubs/organizations
  • Timeshare company(ies)
  • Trustees
  • Power of attorney
  • Whoever holds your Will
  • Veterans Affairs
  • ICBC and private car insurance
  • House insurance
  • Telus, Shaw, BC Hydro, Oil, Gas
  • Volunteer groups
  • Health care plan(s) – i.e. Blue Cross
  • Health research program

Home Delivery:

  • Prescriptions
  • Newspaper
  • Meals
  • Groceries

Open the Printable Address Change Checklist

Visualize Your Way to a Successful Move Day

By Anney Ardiel, Certified Professional Consultant on Aging and owner of Act Together Moving Services

If you are struggling to face a coming move and dreading the future in your new home, visualization exercises can help you stop imagining the worst and start focusing on the outcome you desire: a smooth, stress-free move.

Why Visualization Can Help

moving-truckAlthough experts say one of the best ways to achieve what you want for a future outcome is to use visualization techniques, I rarely meet anyone who is visualizing in a positive way about moving. Most people shudder in horror and try not to think about it until absolutely forced into facing the reality of moving and especially downsizing.   

The amazing thing about visualization is that as we imagine the desired outcome mentally and savour it with all of our brain4senses, our brain begins to build neurological pathways towards those outcomes.  Visualization can lead to an outcome that reflects your mental images, whether they are positive or negative. 

Step One: Outcome Visualization
Why not take control of the outcome by creating positive images of the future you desire?

2013-01-18-16-01-23Find a quiet place to sit for a few minutes. Imagine yourself walking in the door to your new place. Imagine that your move went very smoothly and finished ahead of schedule so you feel hugely relieved. 

Now spend a few seconds on each though as you close your eyes and take calming breaths:

  • Smell how clean and fresh the air is in your new place
  • Hear pleasant music playing on your stereo and hear two friendly neighbours saying hello.
  • Feel your daughter’s/friend’s warm hug as she greets you to your new home.
  • Hear the love in her voice when she praises how well you managed, how lovely your furniture looks and how nicely everything fits.
  • Look around. Yes, she’s right! The place looks (fill in your desired outcome: elegant, cosy, spacious, warm, cool, tasteful, familiar, new, etc. ).
  • Sip the cup of tea she made in your organized kitchen. It’s just the way you like it, warm and soothing. Notice she had no trouble finding the tea bags, tea pot and mugs because everything is exactly where it should be.
  • Go lie down on your freshly made bed and take a nap, you deserve it!

These mental images will not appeal to everyone so you’ll have to create your own list of wonderful, motivating mental images to focus on during your visualization exercises. If you need help at first, ask a friend to sit with you and read you the list one at a time, pausing to give you time to visualize each mental image.

Step Two: Process Visualization

keepcalmchillout-72x150Once you have practiced the Outcome Visualization technique enough to have a very clear image of how you want your moving day to go, you can also use Process Visualization to help you stay focused and motivated through the tough pre-move work. This exercise helps you envision a future outcome where all the hard work of moving gets done on time, extremely well, the way you want it.

Imagine you are standing in the main room of your home, preparing for move day. You’ve still got lots of time to get all the move preparation done so you feel calm. Now spend a few seconds on each though as you close your eyes and take calming breaths:

  • See all the treasures and curios you’ve collected over the years on your travels and from loved ones. Let your eyes savour the bounty of your past.
  • Imagine yourself sitting down in your favorite comfortable chair, holding a pen and notepad. Feel the pen glide across the paper as you write down a list of the things you will take to your new place. At first it’s hard for you to make decisions but soon your list marches down the page.
  • Now imagine yourself picking up the phone and speaking to someone in your family or community. Hear yourself offering to give them an item (dining room table? Lawn mower?) you can’t keep yourself. You can hear in their voice how excited they are that you’ve offered them such a wonderful gift. Hear them ask you when can they come pick it up.
  • Pick up the floor plan for your new place that has your furniture drawn to scale and hold it in your hands.blueJay_v1.10.1 It’s marvelous how everything is going to fit so nicely with plenty of room to maneuver.
  • Walk into the other room and run your hand along the stacks of boxes that have been packed with books, clothes, pictures and all the household stuff you are keeping. Read the labels on each box. The stack of boxes is orderly and ready to move.
  • Hear the admiration your daughter’s/friend’s voice as she exclaims over all the hard work you’ve done. You thank her for all the help she gave you with sorting your clothes and running moving errands for you. Give her a big hug!
  • Take a deep breath and smell that wonderful odor of clean. How smart of you to hire a cleaning company so your move out cleaning is all taken care of by professionals.


Again, this list is a starting place for you. Customize your own list of images that evoke the best possible outcome so you counter every fear with positive images.

There Will Be Bumps on the Road

couple-smallRe-calibrate Regularly

As you encounter obstacles along the way such as negative people warning you about horrible moving disasters, or if you’re feeling down after a setback, re-calibrate your visualization by running through these exercises again. Feel free to add new images to your list as they occur to you.

Get Support

It’s also a good idea to share your vision of the desired outcomes you have for your move. If your friends share your vision then they will support you and encourage you to stay on track with your goals.