Visualize Your Way to a Successful Move Day

By Anney Ardiel, Certified Professional Consultant on Aging and owner of Act Together Moving Services

If you are struggling to face a coming move and dreading the future in your new home, visualization exercises can help you stop imagining the worst and start focusing on the outcome you desire: a smooth, stress-free move.

Why Visualization Can Help

moving-truckAlthough experts say one of the best ways to achieve what you want for a future outcome is to use visualization techniques, I rarely meet anyone who is visualizing in a positive way about moving. Most people shudder in horror and try not to think about it until absolutely forced into facing the reality of moving and especially downsizing.   

The amazing thing about visualization is that as we imagine the desired outcome mentally and savour it with all of our brain4senses, our brain begins to build neurological pathways towards those outcomes.  Visualization can lead to an outcome that reflects your mental images, whether they are positive or negative. 

Step One: Outcome Visualization
Why not take control of the outcome by creating positive images of the future you desire?

2013-01-18-16-01-23Find a quiet place to sit for a few minutes. Imagine yourself walking in the door to your new place. Imagine that your move went very smoothly and finished ahead of schedule so you feel hugely relieved. 

Now spend a few seconds on each though as you close your eyes and take calming breaths:

  • Smell how clean and fresh the air is in your new place
  • Hear pleasant music playing on your stereo and hear two friendly neighbours saying hello.
  • Feel your daughter’s/friend’s warm hug as she greets you to your new home.
  • Hear the love in her voice when she praises how well you managed, how lovely your furniture looks and how nicely everything fits.
  • Look around. Yes, she’s right! The place looks (fill in your desired outcome: elegant, cosy, spacious, warm, cool, tasteful, familiar, new, etc. ).
  • Sip the cup of tea she made in your organized kitchen. It’s just the way you like it, warm and soothing. Notice she had no trouble finding the tea bags, tea pot and mugs because everything is exactly where it should be.
  • Go lie down on your freshly made bed and take a nap, you deserve it!

These mental images will not appeal to everyone so you’ll have to create your own list of wonderful, motivating mental images to focus on during your visualization exercises. If you need help at first, ask a friend to sit with you and read you the list one at a time, pausing to give you time to visualize each mental image.

Step Two: Process Visualization

keepcalmchillout-72x150Once you have practiced the Outcome Visualization technique enough to have a very clear image of how you want your moving day to go, you can also use Process Visualization to help you stay focused and motivated through the tough pre-move work. This exercise helps you envision a future outcome where all the hard work of moving gets done on time, extremely well, the way you want it.

Imagine you are standing in the main room of your home, preparing for move day. You’ve still got lots of time to get all the move preparation done so you feel calm. Now spend a few seconds on each though as you close your eyes and take calming breaths:

  • See all the treasures and curios you’ve collected over the years on your travels and from loved ones. Let your eyes savour the bounty of your past.
  • Imagine yourself sitting down in your favorite comfortable chair, holding a pen and notepad. Feel the pen glide across the paper as you write down a list of the things you will take to your new place. At first it’s hard for you to make decisions but soon your list marches down the page.
  • Now imagine yourself picking up the phone and speaking to someone in your family or community. Hear yourself offering to give them an item (dining room table? Lawn mower?) you can’t keep yourself. You can hear in their voice how excited they are that you’ve offered them such a wonderful gift. Hear them ask you when can they come pick it up.
  • Pick up the floor plan for your new place that has your furniture drawn to scale and hold it in your hands.blueJay_v1.10.1 It’s marvelous how everything is going to fit so nicely with plenty of room to maneuver.
  • Walk into the other room and run your hand along the stacks of boxes that have been packed with books, clothes, pictures and all the household stuff you are keeping. Read the labels on each box. The stack of boxes is orderly and ready to move.
  • Hear the admiration your daughter’s/friend’s voice as she exclaims over all the hard work you’ve done. You thank her for all the help she gave you with sorting your clothes and running moving errands for you. Give her a big hug!
  • Take a deep breath and smell that wonderful odor of clean. How smart of you to hire a cleaning company so your move out cleaning is all taken care of by professionals.


Again, this list is a starting place for you. Customize your own list of images that evoke the best possible outcome so you counter every fear with positive images.

There Will Be Bumps on the Road

couple-smallRe-calibrate Regularly

As you encounter obstacles along the way such as negative people warning you about horrible moving disasters, or if you’re feeling down after a setback, re-calibrate your visualization by running through these exercises again. Feel free to add new images to your list as they occur to you.

Get Support

It’s also a good idea to share your vision of the desired outcomes you have for your move. If your friends share your vision then they will support you and encourage you to stay on track with your goals.

 

Don’t Call It Junk

Anney-smallWe are helping a family move their elderly mother this week and I’m amazed at how much respect her daughters have for every singe item in her home. Sometimes adult children only see junk, but these daughters see treasure in their mother’s stacks and piles.

Of course this means the house can’t be cleared out in one day…this project is going to take a lot of work.

I saw this movie recently that depicts how badly kids can misjudge the value of their mother’s stuff, with hilarious consequences.

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Aging In Victoria Seminars

Anney-small“I had no idea.” I hear that over and over when helping clients and their families to navigate the dizzying senior housing options in Victoria.

And it doesn’t stop with housing. As my clients get older, it becomes harder for them to cope with the health system. Ask any senior who is trying to find a GP that is accepting new patients…it seems impossible.

That’s why I’ve teamed up other experts to put on free seminars over the next two weeks. The seminars range in topic from hidden costs that hit seniors, to housing options and aging in place, to healthy aging strategies.

The format we will follow is a collaborative panel discussion, followed by questions and input from the audience. We are there to share what we have learned from years of working in our respective industries, and also to learn from people who are navigating through their retirement.

These seminars are free, and include delicious refreshments!

I hope you can join us to learn and share.


Seminar 1: Making a Financial Plan

Our panel will discuss the various costs facing the elderly, ranging from housing, health care, aging in place and more.

Saturday, April 25th, 2:00pm – 3:30pm

Location: The Kensington 3965 Shelbourne St Victoria

Panel: Barbra Hopkins (Sun Life Financial)Nolan Adam (Sands Funeral Chapel) & Farhan Kanji (Heart Pharmacy).

Seating is limited. Call The Kensington today to reserve your spot! 250-477-1232


Seminar 2: Senior Housing Options

Our panel will discuss topics ranging from real estate, retirement housing options, VIHA (Island Health) and more.

Thursday, April 30th, 7:00pm – 8:30pm

Location: The Kensington 3965 Shelbourne St Victoria

Panel: Tony Joe (RE/MAX Camosun)Anney Ardiel (Act Together Moving Services).

Seating is limited. Call The Kensington today to reserve your spot! 250-477-1232


Seminar 3: Staying Healthy and Safe

Our panel will discuss safety at home, prescription management, exercise and nutrition and community resources.

Wednesday, May 6th, 2:00pm – 3:30pm

Location: The Kensington 3965 Shelbourne St Victoria

Panel: Richard Major (Motion Specialties)Brecon Gage (Comfort Keepers) Farhan Kanji (Heart Pharmacy).

Seating is limited. Call The Kensington today to reserve your spot! 250-477-1232

Why Do We Need So Much Space?

Anney-smallBy Anney Ardiel
Move Manager, Act Together Moving Services

According to the Canada Mortgage and Housing Corp. (CMHC), the average size of a Canadian house in 1945 was just over 800 square feet; in 1975, it was 1,075 square feet; and by 2000 it had almost tripled to 2,266 square feet.When we look at house sizes around the world, we see that our standards are ridiculously high here in Canada. In Japan, the average size of a home is 1,021 square feet–less than half the size of Canadian homes. People in the UK on average live in homes that are just under 1,000 square feet.  Continue reading